“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.”
― Sophia Loren
Through a slow, deliberate experience, something is here to help us to see the effects of the karmic pattern endemic in our own life’s love-story. This happens by channelling into our particular tastes and predilections, and by crystallising our desirous intentions from mere energy into matter, show how we must then work to keep them, and how we must eventually let them go.
In typical Saturnian terms, it is a transactional affair – there is something pragmatic that we need to acquire, to come to realise, and then to judge whether we ever needed it at all
When the last cycle began at the commencement (00°-01°) of a Cardinal sign (Aries Point), as it happened when Venus was conjunct Saturn at 00°♑39′ in December 2017, it would spell a year of reassessment of values, loves, relationships and marriages for many, and only the most robust, most dutiful would hold. For those who engaged or invested in any fluff, it forced an entire year of celibacy.
A serious relationship, acquisition, investment, or enterprise can be born or broken of this moment.
A conjunction between these two planets introduces a relationship between two entities which forces us to slow down and experience the real worth of our personal value system, manifesting upon the linear plane of space and time we call ‘reality’.
We learn how to assess and appraise the way we love and appreciate, both ourselves and those we draw into in our world. For some it will be the realisation of what love is all about. For others, it will be the dawning of a greater sense of isolation and feeling cut off from the physical plane onto something higher, more spiritual. Through connection to things that are supposed to bring us joy, admiration, happiness and peace, we learn how to apply ourselves, how to invest our love, how to draw boundaries and how to make firm, practical decisions to divest them when stagnation and inhibition sets in.
It is through a mature appreciation of the value of setting and releasing boundaries and expectations on those things we so desire in our lives that we come to understand their impermanence. We come to learn how, through those we attract into our world, we form bonds that serve our growth and awareness of what is possible or not possible. Through trials and limitations we learn to better define the bounds of when it is a time to try to keep holding on and when it’s time to let go.
Through identifying the inhibitions, the fears and worries that our pleasures and attachments can attract, through the increasing mount of expectations and constraints placed on love, through the suffering that we either choose to endure or to release, through amassing karmic baggage that often comes with conditional love, we develop a deepening ability to know love’s true, unconditional quality.
The Venus/Saturn effect compels us to experience the challenges and restrictions that are imposed upon us when we enter any investment made by our heart’s desire. As we come to accept that all relationships are here to teach us lessons, we must also observe that it is often through tough, hard-hearted, dissatisfying and increasingly frustrating exchanges, certain challenges are fraught with limitations of time, physical resources and practical considerations.
In our craving to have and to hold something or someone into a highly conditional, self-centered and insecure way, we often develop an unhealthy, immature attachment to what was perhaps meant to be limitless and free.
The harder we work to hang on to love, the more arduous our effort becomes. Often, and especially when we instinctively sense that our resources to keep our investent are limited and dwindling, becoming punishingly cruel and eventually exhausting, we often refuse to let it be.
This is a fear that is largely psychological and superstitious. It goes back to our basic programming on how we should experience love and joy. We all have very particular tastes and specific ways that we can come to satisfy these. Everything in Saturn’s world, even love, comes at a cost.
Such is the pressure that Saturn holds over Venus. Of course, it is necessary, for what we desire to satisfy us in the physical realm is limited. Hence we engage in some degree of effort to secure our prize. Whilst our resources last, we can continue to afford to keep it. At some time, however, we must accept that all the effort in the world cannot ever hope to secure the happiness that we so badly crave to ‘have’.
The Venus/Saturn experience is real. It’s not a mere idea, or concept, dream or delusion. It’s a real, live, happening thing. There’s no question that it’s there. The only question is how you plan to keep it.
In true karmic sense, it is our ‘survival’ mind which seems convinced that what we wish to to have and to hold in our lives is somehow ‘fated’ for us. That man or woman, that house, that toy, that child or business is real, and it must do everything to pronounce it ours.
It is this feeling that it was ‘meant to be’, and there is a ‘higher purpose’ for it being in our lives. And there is. From the start, a strong inner sense that this beautiful, precious thing was tailor made for us, that from which we cannot possibly be without it, fills our spine with the upright fortitude to stand and make a claim, and with the motivation that we must do anything to have it. In the karmic course, we are prepared to pay any price, suffer any misfortune or shame to keep it, fearing that we would die if we ever lost it. Something is driving it, but it is seldom a spiritual place. Indeed, it comes from our parent-trained mind around what constitutes beauty, love and emotional security.
No matter how much effort we apply to secure and maintain such a bond, with Saturn holding the metronome of chronos (time), there eventually comes a moment when the bonds will fail to become sustainable, without exhausting even to most excruciating efforts. All physical/material effort is limited, and it must run out at some point. At some point, we must realise that we are doing all the work for it, yet the relationship refuses to work for us – at least in the ways we come to expect.
By its terminal stages, as tough as it may be to accept any disappointments, losses, failures or pain, our determination that it may one day deliver us to a place of peace and spiritual satisfaction becomes just as strong. Then work turns into wretched desperation.
It is this rigid insistence to keep it, by increasing the measures, chastising and isolating the object of our heart’s desire, applying greater toil and struggle towards building walls and securities, fighting a war against even time itself, sanctioning and forcing every resource we have to keeping it alive, setting impossibly unattainable goals, guidelines and parameters for it to live by, placing more frequent checks and balances, enforcing stricter rules of engagement and micro-managing the thing to death, that our whole life become more and more complex, punishingly unpleasant and cruelly painstaking to administer.
In this desperate process of securing love within bounds, we apply so much discipline to something whose initial beauty and appeal seemed effortless and free, seeming only satisfied when it manages to play along with the most specific constraints that we apply to it, that often, if not eventually, we have managed to take all the joy and natural beauty out of it. Eventually we kill it. Or it escapes to the hands of someone who will stand between us and its joy.
When we have turned a thing of innocent love into something stifled and stunted in its ability to radiate natural beauty, it eventually dries up and dies. Here, we must either choose to accept what it has come to teach us – that limitations of time affect all structures here on earth – however beautiful – and if we do not learn to love and release, we may never learn to really love at all.
Here, we may have to suffer the pain of loneliness and despair, or get over the grief of loss and try to love again.
The most profound lesson we stand to take away from any karmic relationship is to learn to love without fear of loss. If we could learn to overcome the effects of time, to say “love in the moment”, we would also learn to cease worrying about depreciation, allow the thing we love to go through its own journey of maturation, let it always radiate beauty and joy into our lives in its own natural beauty without worrying if it will ever lose its appeal.
If things one day cease to make us smile, or fail to smile at us any longer, we must come to realise that we have crystalised and entombed to power of Venus.
Sometimes we may need to accept that love has dies, or at least gone off on its own, never again to be enjoyed with or by us again.
A thing of beauty does not need to be any more useful that to soothe us by its sheer aesthetic. Its function lies in its ability to make us smile, to ease our aching existential woes. The constant chastisement, separating force, the measurement judgement and appraisal from Saturn can crimp and crease and diminish Venus’ freedom to keep us connected to the abundance of love, the source where she draws her natural beauty.
Like cutting wild flowers, they will soon die when they are taken from their source. Saturn has this tendency to cut, place in his the vessel of his own devices, create an unnaturally placed ornamental piece, then try everything under the sun to arrest its development, preserve its aesthetic, just to keep it from changing. He is not content to walk through the wild fields and admire the beauty as it was gifted by the creator. He must enjoy it only on his terms, and for himself.
Kept in his denial and restraint, sooner or later his prized blossoms, picked in full bloom, will start to fall apart as they age. Eventually they will wilt and die.
In this cycle, we come to discover the impermanence of all structures and plans to hold the things we love inside a bottle. Whilst all physical relationships require some degree of effort and responsibility to maintain, if this does not come from a bilateral agreement of mutual attraction, of natural affection and admiration for one another, of true faith to the integrity and beauty of each and both parties, then this becomes a relationship limited by materialistic interests and in this sense, the material limitations will soon harken its demise.
Beautiful things are there to be enjoyed, not be made useful.
This is not to say they can’t be. Much of our old, 3D economy runs on selling love and beauty. Initially, under an oath of allegiance, as contracted by Saturn, Venus soon learns to put her own feelings and desires aside for the sake of ‘doing what’s has be done’. Sooner or later she feels that the pleasure and joy she naturally gives and receives becomes her solemn ‘duty’. She is sworn to become handy, durable, and faithful to the cause, devout enough to issue love and appreciation as it’s part of the relationship plan, the deal, the enterprise, the ‘sacred commitment’.
Gradually, the affection shifts to something that is more and more conditional and grooves into a familiar repertoire of tricks that will please and appease Saturn’s expectations. As the secular value of Venus matures, she become good for business. She develops an expertise at “putting out the goods”, more world-savvy, practiced at the art of being desirous, important, worthy, useful and exquisite to have around. She turns her love into a business model. She forms a prestige label on her beauty, and like a fine wine, if allowed to mature under the right conditions, her value increases with age.
However if the conditions should go awry, or are wrong to begin with, she may spoil or go sour. Of course, against the ravages of time, even the finest of wines reaches a ‘best before’ date.
The Venus/Saturn type comes to experience the whole process of karmic love as a chore, as a work to be performed to some prescribed standard, or a certain status – something that worthy of merit, respect, or saleable patronage from a selective status quo.
Some who have this combination in their chart are willing to defer joy and love altogether for a higher cause, like their ‘marriage’ to special career person or some chastising mission like the nunnery or monastery – where often they devote their life to beauty, art, or counselling for their god.
Many others will seldom get their hearts involved with others unless it promises some form of social prestige, financial security or status. They are limited to some degree in their capacity to feel into love unless it provides some seniority or power in the corporeal sense. Those in the fashion and cosmetic industry; escorts, models, hosts and their ‘agents’; music executives, entertainment and art dealers; aesthetics designers; ‘sugar daddies’, playboys and influential aging lotharios, hussies & pimps; trophy wives and political marriages (of convenience) – in short, anyone who benefits by exploiting their natural flair for beauty, unscrupulously advancing their position in society using love, art and managing relationships has this combination.
It is often seen in bonds between two people with some age difference between them, where on acts as the more mature custodia of the other. The love is based on practical necessities vs social/sexual adornment.
Most common though, and this possibly applies to all the above types to some extent, it accompanies those lonely-hearts types who feel, at heart, ostracised from love and eventually realise that they must pay for every ounce of joy that they give or receive in life.
Eventually in karmic course, the lessons here are critical. We must learn to accept our own impermanence in this 3-Dimensional realm. We will all age and die in the 3D reality. That is certain. Along the way, we will learn that love comes at a cost, and for this we will work, and we will pay.
However there is a difference between ‘aging’ and ‘growing up’. Aging is marked only by linear time. Maturity is a spiritual quality. You may get a fine qualification, job, career. money, house, wife, kids, public reputation, even fame. These may bring you a sense of fleeting joy, but they will not bring you maturity. If you are at all insecure about losing these things they will only make you age – if that is where your value system lies. To mature you must be able to enjoy life’s beautiful rewards without attachment or fear of losing them.
We must learn not become imprisoned by the prism of our own love-programming. It is in our upbringing that the structures of how we deserve to have love become defined. The relationship between Venus and Saturn in the chart always tells us which phase of the karmic development of our conditional love we’re at.
True, spiritual love has no bounds. It must be allowed to dance freely both within us and in all that is around us. Constrained love is not true. To be true it must be allowed to flower to its maturity as we too are allowed to dance freely alongside it. Only here, without fear or worry do we mature in our understanding that to continue this eternal dance with love we must also tend to our the responsibilities of our heart, whose only mission is for us to stay creative, wild and free.
So long as we serve to stay connected to the source of our creativity, our freedom to love and to be loved will continue to mature, defy aging, and our natural beauty will be radiate with abundance and eternal joy.
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