Venus/Mars – The Quest for Passion and the Fight for Love (with Special Messages)

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The combination of Venus and Mars – significators in our horoscope of our engendered, interpersonal feminine and masculine selves, generally indicate the level of intensity and style with which we express our individual ‘urge to love and be loved’. Their midpoint can be simply be described as our ‘Passion Axis’, alignments to this often indicators to what turns us on (or off) – especially in matters where the opposite sex (or our ‘other half’) is concerned.

Much can be written just about this point, since relationships are our second-favourite subject (after self-interests, of course), but let us keep this terse and concise, for the sake of practicality.

ASPECTS OF PASSION:

We are all capable of becoming passionate to some degree – in short, it is our ability to express strong emotions of desire (or disgust) about something, then apply individual effort to show how we are worthy, competent or deserving of attaining a certain, suitable outcome for ourselves.

Venus/Mars aspects in the horoscope generally emphasise an individual’s awareness of issues to do with sex and sexuality. Strong identification with one’s gender or sexuality charges the individual’s environment with increased sexual energy, polarising attraction/repulsion to the opposite gender. Needless to say, the softer aspects (sextile/trine) will make the exchange a little more flowing, less challenging than the harder aspects (squares/oppositions), but generally speaking, natal aspects involving Venus and Mars indicate that the native’s sexual identity and appetites for a mate will come to the forefront, whether it’s love, hate or a mix of both. Activity from other planets often provides more depth into this.

CYCLES OF SEXUAL GROWTH:

In the synodic cycle, transits between the two planets show an arousal of the two opposing energies of our basic sexual chemistry (attraction and repulsion) igniting strong feelings of love and hate. These are commonly polarised around issues and themes attributed to the opposite sex. Ironically, themes that we find most alien and threatening also (strangely) turn us on, so we engage into a dance which, in its course, raises our awareness on that which we are most passionate about.

New Cycles, which commence at the conjunction (see below) often coincide with periods of experience through which our romances and dalliances with the opposite gender, and experiences with sex itself, will come to be seen in a new light. The zodiac sign at each Venus/Mars conjunction indicates how the current cycle will play out in terms of its mundane emphasis (house matters), with respect to other transits (both natal and transiting).

Here are some recent conjunctions in the synodic dance between Ve/Ma:

2015

21

Feb

01°Ar42′

2015

31

Aug

14°Le55’

2015

2

Nov

24°Vi02′

2017

5

Oct

19°Vi13′

2019

24

Aug

04°Vi08′

2021

13

Jul

19°Le49′

It must be said that if Venus/Mars are in aspect, an intense, unfiltered biological urge underpins much of the charge being generated between two individuals – especially of the opposite sex. Hence, exchanges commenced during these times are more likely to lead us to the bedroom rather than the altar, and a devil-may-care attitude about propriety of one another or the opinions of others tends not to affect the relationship too much.

High spirits and heady pursuits for pleasure may eventually crash and burn before evolving (see squares) during the cycle’s relatively short, ~2yr duration. Though it may come to full fruition, or separation and “broken hearts” (see opposition), each run provides a unique chance for us to examine the way in which we generally relate our masculine-feminine (animus-anima) sexual differences, with aim to learn and evolve.

Key transits in current Venus/Mars cycle:

Sat Aug 24  2019

17:05

Venus

04°08′

Conjunction

Mars

04°08′

Mon Jan 27  2020

01:38

Venus

16°02′

Square

Mars

16°02′

Wed Jun 03  2020

00:41

Venus

14°03′

Square

Mars

14°03′

Fri Sep 04  2020

09:13

Venus

27°55′

Square

Mars

27°55′

Mon Nov 09  2020

16:09

Venus

15°22′

Opposition

Mars

15°22′

Fri Feb 19  2021

23:04

Venus

23°01′

Square

Mars

23°01′

Tue Jul 13, 21

17:05

Venus

19°49′

Conjunction

Mars

19°49′

Learning how to be sensitive to each other’s’ differences provides the key to avoiding any emotional wreckages or immature love-bonds. It is through this appetite for something different that we are afforded opportunities in life to experiment into erotic areas which otherwise only languish in our wildest sexual fantasies.

CYCLES IN VIRGO:

The last three (full) Venus/Mars cycles have consecutively commenced in Virgo, the first being in Nov 2015, then Oct 2017, and now Aug 2019. This has brought a lot of earthy criticism to the interplay between genders, resulting in involuntary chastity and even cynicism about love altogether.

Where Venus conjuncts Mars in Virgo, there is generally a prissy, sexuallly reserved and unromantic (more practically-minded) purpose to love affairs. There can be a “what-can-you-do-for-me” approach. Any dalliances commenced during key transits of this cycle are generally accompanied with a high degree of mental criticism and analysis over minute gender differences. Usefulness and efficiency are big-ticket items. These often highlight the most grotesquely alien, romantically distasteful or threatening idiosyncrasies of the opposite gender.

Whilst this may cause constant grumbling and fault-finding, there is a strange attraction – a biological (or animal) magnetism or fascination, beyond any logical reasoning.

Needless to say, any love/hate affairs here bring up lots of things to work on and improve. In the most ‘abstract’ sense (not a Virgo word), it behooves us to find ways to bind spirit to the flesh, or else choose to focus celibately on our individual self-perfection, learning to satisfy sexuality, polarity and gender balances within our own personal solitude and sexual abstinence, sobriety, or through service to others.

Single parenthood is also accented during the Virgo cycles, possibly as a symbol of raising awareness of the practical importance the opposite sex plays in raising children. Many seeds are sown into our rising appreciation of the opposite sex during these cycles.

LAST RITES:

This final Virgo conjunction, conjunct Sun/Juno and trine Uranus in Taurus promises only to prompt humanity to explore its wider practical needs and concerns, often by deferring or hampering sexual needs, relegating love, marriage, parenting and nurturance to a less ‘humanoid’ kind of partner (whatever that may mean for you). Perhaps perfection can be only found in a machine or computer algorithm. Evolving our biological urges and sexual passions may mean having the strength to adequately come down to earth long enough to meet (and be met) in our most highly desirable qualities as human beings, and though we may not comply by most standards, we are human after all, and we need to be loved….

Are you part of the Tribe? See links below (for your special tribe message) to see how this cycle will affect your sign…

SPECIAL MESSAGES FOR THE COSMIC TRIBE:

ARIES/ARIES RISING

Nobody ever has to explain the mechanics of passion for you, since that stuff boils fiercely in the cauldrons of your driving heart of hearts…continue reading your Aries special message here

TAURUS/TAURUS RISING

You are a no-nonsense kind of person, like to keep your feet on the ground, especially when it comes to matters of love (and other relative investments). Just that… something…continue reading your Taurus special message here

GEMINI/GEMINI RISING

There are times where your own mind can be your worst enemy, and then there are times when you can just make a truce with that mere mind and start to truly appreciate…continue reading your Gemini special message here

CANCER/CANCER RISING

You know something sexy?
It’s your mind what does it…. Your own thoughts have the power to turn you on, you know? And whether it’s your ‘own’ ideas (no idea was ever really your own though, was it?)…continue reading your Cancer special message here

LEO/LEO RISING

Generosity is a many splendored quality but it can certainly be overdone, and what we’re seeing now is that even with a heart as bountiful and giving…continue reading your Leo special message here

VIRGO/VIRGO RISING

You are challenged to integrate a newly invigorated sexuality and sensuality in with the dedicated spiritual devotional needs of another – most likely a committed partner…continue reading your Virgo special message here

LIBRA/LIBRA RISING

Ok… two ways this could go:

HIGHEST: The ultimate love. The full surrender into the most egoless engagement with an angelic creature who seems hardly real, yet divinely unreal in every exhilarating sense. Yes, you must wash away…continue reading your Libra special message here

SCORPIO/SCORPIO RISING

Expressing yourself in groups is not really your forté since you are primarily a very intimate operator, but here is your chance now to play cool and friendly rather…continue reading your Scorpio special message here

SAGITTARIUS/SAGITTARIUS RISING

Something you really do take rather fiercely from this point forward though is just how particular you are in choosing exactly where you’re heading, and if arrogance does not interfere with conceit…continue reading your Sagittarius special message here

CAPRICORN/CAPRICORN RISING

Lot’s has happened out there, and mostly because of you just knuckling into a work ethic that puts us all to shame. But that’s just it…continue reading your Capricorn special message here

AQUARIUS/AQUARIUS RISING

It’s more your analytical mind, cogitating and coagulating all those ‘feelings’ you may have for someone special into cool and careful calculations, before they get to reach your heart…continue reading your Aquarius special message here

PISCES/PISCES RISING

We all know that you’re really something – something that’s often the object of desire and wonderment from others, and yet completely elusive to the touch and hold of being defined…continue reading your Pisces special message here

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